Perhaps the hardest part of losing weight is finding adequate support in your environment. For example, your goal to lose 15 pounds might be stalled (or even stopped entirely) when your significant other is busy being a sloth on the couch, or you’re trying to focus on eating healthfully but your family insists on keeping processed junk in the cupboards and fridge. It’s far too tempting to give in and forget your needs all together.
And why does weight loss bring up such a war between family members? Why do we have to deal with sabotage: Those who say they have our best interests in mind and do it out of love, yet continue to bake cookies, make insistent dinner invites, even begin to whine when we lace up our cross trainers to get a workout in. Why does food have to be the sole language of love and caring?
What is it about wanting to get your health in order, get back into skinny jeans that causes such a riff in a relationship? Why does weight loss make some people so uncomfortable, that perhaps you’d erroneously take it to the point of starvation?
I mostly find these situations occurring when dealing with those who have weight to lose/bad health habits to break themselves. Dear saboteurs, in no way do my new healthy habits shine a bad light on you. At least, that’s not my intention. Why is there so much guilt (on both ends)?
It’s too easy to cave when people are putting the limelight on you for your righteous behavior and twist it in ways that make it seem vain, unnecessary, or even dangerous. How do we continue to stand up for our needs, ordering the salad instead of the cheeseburger, skipping on dessert for tonight, or even just allowing ourselves that extra time in the gym?
I’ve dealt with these kinds of people, seemingly, all of my life. [Thankfully, not in my current relationship or his parents.] Perhaps the key, then, is to only surround yourself with like-minded individuals. Those who don’t see choosing chicken over beef such an outrageous request. Those who are just as interested in keeping disease-free and having ease of movement all of their lives. Those who don’t think it’s whack to want to stay in some nights to catch up on sleep. Obviously, you can’t choose your family, but you can choose how much time you spend with them and how to react to such comments and gestures. Don’t make it an issue and don’t fire back (though you may want to).
We all deserve more out of life. More years, more mobility, and more goals reached. All it takes, I guess, is setting the example.